What to Say When You Discover Your Child is Self-Harming

💔 What to Say When You Discover Your Child is Self-Harming 💬

Finding out that your child is self-harming can be terrifying and overwhelming. But what you say next matters deeply. Here’s how to respond with love, not fear:

🟠Stay Calm

Your child needs safety, not shame. Take a breath before reacting. Avoid yelling, blaming, or showing panic, it may push them further away.

🟢 Use Compassionate Language

Try:

✨ “I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way.”

✨ “Thank you for trusting me.”

✨ “You’re not in trouble. I’m here to help you through this.”

🟠 Don’t Jump to Fixing Right Away

Before solutions, they need to feel heard. Ask open-ended questions:

🗣 “Can you help me understand what you’re feeling?”

🗣 “When did this start for you?”

🟢 Reassure Them

Let them know:

💛 They’re not alone

💛 You love them unconditionally

💛 You’ll face this together

🟠 Seek Professional Help

This is a serious sign of emotional distress. A therapist can help your child process pain in safer, healthier ways.

🟢 A S&L Safe Cut Kits / Self-Harm Distraction Kits can help to offer a practical resource and open up a conversation around safer alternatives.

📌 Remember: Self-harm is a coping mechanism, not “Connection Seeking” or manipulation. It’s a signal that your child is struggling and needs support, not punishment.

💬 Your words can be a lifeline. Choose love, always.